Letting Go of Expectations

Expectations can be subtle but powerful. Sometimes we have to sit and ask ourselves, are we choosing our path from freedom and authenticity, or from expectations? In this meditation, we will begin to release the first-cousin of control, expectation, both external and internal, and step into our true energy. (David Gandelman)

I started The Energetics of Success & Manifestation, a 30-day course to manifest an abundant and fulfilled outer life, whether that’s with a partner, my creativity, where I live. To do so we must first shift our energy on the inside.

So the course is learning powerful tools to release the energy that keeps us from rising to our potential in life, and reconnecting with our true purpose. As we meditate, we begin to awaken to the truth that lasting outer success is a reflection of inner-power.

Essentially, we manifest on the outside how we feel on the inside. So this is the journey of profound transformation I’m on, where I will learn to take control of my life, according to David.

Now I’m not going to try and plagarise this course material by putting my own spin on it. I’m more interested right now in commenting on what is happening and asking is this due to the course or external circumstances or both conditioning my internal state, which I in turn manifest.

On Monday I had my social analysis the morning and MMTCP Europe Mindfulness as a Business Focus Group meeting; on Tuesday my AREA meeting; on Wednesday my CCR 94.6FM Board meeting; and today I have my Mindfulness Sangha meeting and Peace Education Program Meeting. To top it all, this morning I had a conversation with my partner Linn about where our relationship and lives are going.

I was feeling somewhat frustrated attending all these meetings and sharing my opinion and not seeing anything really happening or changing in my inner or outer life as a result of all these mostly virtual relationships with others.

I felt and still feel the need to go on a silent retreat or pilgrimage just to be or feel more natural and less virtual.

I’ve felt like I’m talking into the ether and no one is listening at times or that there is a breakdown of communication because it doesn’t feel like the universe is responding.

Is that because I’m not manifesting loud enough what I’m feeling within or is it because I or we are not taking enough time to really listen to what is manifesting in our environment?

The members of AREA met today and we did a workshop with a Ida Van Der Lee: As she says herself:

‘I designs rituals in order to make things that are not allowed to be easier, that which is taboo, or painful. In this way I guide groups – old and young – in commemorating, processing or celebrating emotional events and processes.

A ritual is carefully planned event in which place, object, decor, sound and actions play a role. One concentrates on a particular issue or question, and the participant follows a process through visualization. Rituals make it possible to unite paradoxes and accept dilemmas. A disturbed balance can be restored after which one can continue or begin again. Rituals developed from art are unique, have imagination and fit into this day and age. 

If there are issues in your life or in your work, or if you want to get a grip on undercurrents, then a ritual can be a good idea. Rituals that release stories. Rituals that make a conversation a work of art. Discover the rituals on this site. View the projects and assignments to see how they have been applied. Be inspired and contact us without obligation. (https://idavanderlee.nl/en/home-2/)

I’ve italicised a couple of lines that particularly resonated with me and wrote the following to Ida:

Hi Ida, I enjoyed your participation in AREA, last Tuesday, and my own co-participation in our all too brief workshop. I'd like to have a more in-depth conversation if you'd like to be interviewed by CCR 94.6FM, for my local community radio show, called Voice & Vision.

Your artistic practices though different than my way of shedding light on what is often hidden is something I think we need to be talking about more broadly and finding ways to share and translate our lived experiences of what is culturally taboo to talk about, even as storytellers in society. Despite our cultural differences, I feel this tyranny of the silent majority is what we need to be addressing as artists, even from our own perspective as human beings relating to ourselves and others in this climate of change.

I think in these time we do need to End the Tyranny of Thoughts by addressing where do they come from, their origins and where are we going with them.

The episode below shares some of my thoughts on this subject with my community or Mindfulness Sangha, who meet every Thursday.

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